Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

issues related to living in other Countries not listed here as separate forums, life style, challanges faced, tips for better living, networking within Indian community
Post Reply
M V
Posts: 5059
Joined: Wed Dec 03, 2008 7:56 am

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by M V »

Sarkar07;396585Junior is here! :)) And has made the newly minted father and mother very very happy. :)

Sarkar has shared a very good news with us. Congratulations!

We have a new father (and mother) in our midst. Let us share some parenting advice (free and unsolicited :) ) and thoughts and lessons learned with the newly-minted's. : )

Funny, serious, deep, not-so-deep... bring it on : ) if you have no advice (wow!), post your most memorable moments from when child was a baby/toddler.
sumachechi
Posts: 1339
Joined: Mon Feb 11, 2008 3:00 am

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by sumachechi »

Sarkar07
COngrats.
Look after wifey well.
DOnt attempt to do everything, please everyone. Just wifey, you and baby. Accept all unconditional help that saves you time and effort.
Tell her to drink plenty of fluids and grab as much rest as she can.
Esp if breast-feeding, she will have a lot of mood swings- just support her and listen to her.
Remember ,a baby that does not cry is unachievable. Crying is the ONLY form of communication your baby knows now.
Enjoy your baby- you are building memories for a lifetime.
boca
Posts: 6602
Joined: Sat Jul 05, 2008 7:13 pm

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by boca »

Go with the advice on your advil/mortrin/aleve label: "keep away from children", when they give you headache. :) (read it somewhere and found it apt)

Here is one: If you think that the infant needs a diaper change, just do it. It is less traumatic to just proceed and change after removing the adhesive straps on the diaper than try to smell and then decide. :)
M V
Posts: 5059
Joined: Wed Dec 03, 2008 7:56 am

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by M V »

"Sleep when the baby sleeps" - Nope. Stay awake and enjoy the peace and quiet. :)

whose turn to change diaper - yes, there might come a time when in the middle of the night one informally check whose turn it is to change the diaper. :) one of parenting's sorest tests to wake up from a warm bed and go do the deed, but do it... in the total silence of the night, only a small light or two illuminating the crib or changing area, after the change baby looks up happy and strikes up a "conversation" even though it is the middle of the night... it is so worth it.

Take lots of whole family pictures. Whenever at somebody's else place or if guests come over, and baby is awake, hand them the camera, and have them take pictures of the whole family.

When parenting gets a leetle bit taxing, get creative.... twitter or post a FB status that goes on to become a #1 bestseller book like this one:

[QUOTE]Born out of a Facebook status update, Mansbach has said that when his daughter Vivien was an infant, it would often take hours for her to fall asleep. Exhausted and exasperated, Mansbach posted this as a note on Facebook: "Look out for my forthcoming children's book, Go the -- to Sleep." [/quote]

Watch Samuel L. Jackson read part of the book on Letterman. :)
rimjhim
Posts: 1063
Joined: Wed Jul 29, 2009 1:47 am

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by rimjhim »

Wow!!!! What a wonderful news!!! Hearty Congratulations to mom, dad and baby!!! :)
Sarkar07
Posts: 1733
Joined: Mon Aug 13, 2007 5:32 pm

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by Sarkar07 »

Thanks, MV for starting the thread. It was very nice of you! :) Sorry I just saw the thread today.

Thanks for the advice everyone - and please don't think it is unsolicited. Any small or big tips are helpful.

Suma, yes I am making sure my wife drinks lots of fluids - she never was someone who would drink enough water. She is recovering fine. We are blessed to have a non-fussy and calm baby by all accounts (touch wood!). So while we are not getting enough sleep we are not tearing our hear apart. :) My wife is mentally fine and luckily not showing any mood-swings. My mom is here and that's a HUGE help. My wife feeds and my mom or I put the baby to sleep so that wifey can sleep. Mom not only cooks for us but also takes care of my wife - massaging and advice on feeding and other baby things + waking in the night with wifey when I sleep. She made a little India for us here by organizing a traditional Indian baby shower and also a Namkaran ceremony. Hopefully my in-laws will join soon and we will be a complete family! :)

MV thanks for the tip on taking pictures. We almost had forgotten about OUR pictures with the baby with my being in-charge of clicking pictures or video-recording. :) We got some good pictures of our family today when friends were visiting. Right now wifey prefers to sleep when the baby is sleeping. I have taken her out on one or two occasions just to get her back to humanity when the baby is sleeping and mom's watching him. :) She's mentally and physically healthy though of course physically there is still some pain.

Boca, we haven't reached the stage where the diapers start getting REALLY stinky. :) Right now we don't mind changing the diapers.

Thanks guys!
anwesha
Posts: 1148
Joined: Mon Apr 06, 2009 6:23 pm

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by anwesha »

#6 above shows that sarkar sahab has everything under control and needs no advice.

Albeit a bit late, Congratulations and Best wishes for a wonderful parenthood!!! :)
rimjhim
Posts: 1063
Joined: Wed Jul 29, 2009 1:47 am

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by rimjhim »

Sarkar07;398144
Thanks for the advice everyone - and please don't think it is unsolicited. Any small or big tips are helpful.


Okay...here I go now! Babies tend to keep looking in the direction of light and if laid in the same direction always may reslt in flat head! So make sure baby is placed down in different direction so that they turn their head well in all directions towards source of light.

If wifey is about to continue working, then it may be source of major anxiety for new mom! Please assure her with adequate care and with the kind of facilities available in US, nursing can be continued for long time. If needed I can share more details.

Somethings no amount of hubby talking can bring relief. Let new mom talk to more girl friends. It is both relaxing and reassuring.

Last but not least, tell her not to worry about the extra lbs and enjoy the motherhood. She is always welcome to join RJ's threads after adequate rest and recovery! :)

Kuch jyada hua kya? (Is it a bit too much? :))
Sarkar07
Posts: 1733
Joined: Mon Aug 13, 2007 5:32 pm

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by Sarkar07 »

Thanks RJ. Good tip on the part to make him turn his head in different directions. Like you rightly said, my wife is anxious about getting everything right but I think she is now getting the hang of it. I shall encourage her to talk more to other new mom-friends. Right now she gets all her tips from her iphone while she is feeding the baby or from my mom.

----------------
Question - our baby has got small reddish pimples on his face. We don't think its an allergy but not sure. Online sources say its normal and may be due to the mother's hormones getting in the baby. It should go away on its own. We noticed that sometimes the pimples look more and other times less. Anyone had similar experiences? How long does it take for these to go away?

Another thing we have observed is that his sleep cycles change a lot. Earlier (first two weeks) he would sleep at least 2 hours at a stretch. Since last week he has started to get up every 30 min to 1 hour. But sometimes he sleeps for 4 hours straight (like today morning). Is that normal? How long does it take before the baby gets into a set pattern (if at all)?

Thanks!
r2bangaloresoon
Posts: 189
Joined: Fri Oct 26, 2007 10:09 pm

Parenting advice & thoughts for Bade Sarkar!

Post by r2bangaloresoon »

Congrats...

About pimples on his face, its very common. My sons had it and it went away in 2 to 3 weeks after it first showed. If it is dry skin, talk to your ped. Don't put any lotions or cream on baby's skin it will close the pores. My mother/Mother in law love to put some oil on baby, but I totally was oppose to it because of worry about closing pores on the skin. Talk to ped (or Sumachechi :) )

Changing sleep cycle to is common in my opinion. It is side effect of them growing, they change a lot everyday both in terms of appearance as well as behavior. Enjoy this period because it is definitely one of the most memorable time in your life.
Post Reply

Return to “Life in Other Countries”